COMIN' HOME

Sunday, May 20. 2007

I write this surrounded by boxes amid an otherwise empty dorm room, about to drive home for the summer. Rhonda's already left, but Fenton has to stay two more days in order to take one last final exam.
He'll fly back to his Smart Tree on Wednesday. Despite being busy all this time housing the Hare-Link modem pool, I'm sure that Tree has been lonely with Fenton gone. Being completely wired, she has the ability to send E-mails to check up on him, which is more than Fenton's actual mother does.
Yes, I've come to view Tree as Fenton's mother, which is a pretty accurate description of their relationship. That, of course, puts me in the role of the Son's Girlfriend, but she seems to accept that.
Tree and I do share a mutual concern for Fenton's well-being, which is why I was so alarmed by his risk-taking. He seems to have toned that down since the airplane propeller incident shaved my quills, but I fear it didn't address the underlaying reasons for his thrillseeking.
Sheesh, I'm sounding like his mother...or Dr. Phil.

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Or worse yet TREE!

#1 Ron Bach on 2007-05-20 17:04 (Reply)

Come to think of it, have we ever met Mrs. Fuscus? And believe me, I'm still concerned about Fenton. I really hope he doesn't return to being such a daredevil. But you know why I think he did it? He thought you were getting bored with flying with him, and didn't want to lose you. So he tried to impress you again, so you wouldn't lose interest in him.

Sit down with him and have a talk. Let him know that you care about him, and even if flying has lost its thrill with you, flying with him has not. It's him that you love, not the adrenaline rush of dangerous stunts. Let him know that you weren't just scared when you were flying with him and he was doing those stunts, you were scared that he might be doing that even when you weren't with him, and that he might hurt himself. And point him to your blog entry where you were coming up with cover stories about your quill-cut because you didn't want to risk your dad firing him. And make sure he knows that you care about him, and that you'll never get tired of him, you'll never lose interest in him, and you won't leave him, no matter how boring he thinks he's getting. Because he's not. I know you love him.

I know you probably want to wait until you both graduate from college before you get married. But that doesn't mean you can't get engaged before then. In fact, my girlfriend and I are planning to get engaged this summer. Even though we are just entering college. We want to wait until we graduate too. So what if we're engaged for four or more years? We both know we love each other, we both know we want to spend the rest of our lives together, and we both know that our wedding day is going to be the happiest day of our lives.
But even if you aren't ready to get engaged, consider a promise ring.

And if you're afraid Fenton has lost too much confidence to propose, being afraid of being shot down again (how many times has he proposed anyway?)... A little role reversal couldn't hurt. Did you see that episode of Friends where Monica Gazeller tried to propose to Chandler? I think Fenton would be thrilled if you asked him. He loves you so much, and you making that move would remind him how much you love him back.

#2 Matthew (Link) on 2007-05-20 23:52 (Reply)

No, we have not met any members of Fenton's biological family, tho we have heard about them from time to time. In an old VQ entry, Lindy said that Fenton's mother has been distant from him since he returned from that nearly year-long absence, as tho she still thought him dead. Reading that made me all the more furious at the people who made him disappear.

#2.1 Classic Steve (Link) on 2007-05-21 11:13 (Reply)

See! http://www.kevinandkell.com/2007/strips/kk20070525.gif
If Fenton knew that you were concerned about *him* , maybe he'd feel better and more confident and less risky.

#2.2 Matthew (Link) on 2007-05-25 00:23 (Reply)

http://www.kevinandkell.com/2007/strips/kk20070526.gif
Dangit, Lindy, you gotta start reading these comments! I have no idea where these shenanigans are going, but I tell you I have a baaaad feeling!

#2.3 Matthew (Link) on 2007-05-26 01:33 (Reply)

Sounds like time for a deep conversation. Anyways, I don't necessecarily see a conflict between marriage and college as long as a healthy balance is maintained. In fact, I would argue that marrying in the last years of college might be a benefit to them (and others). My paternal grandparents married when Grandmother was at Rice and Grandfather was in the United States Navy (war years). He later completed his studies at Tulane and went into the oil business. They were married for over 50 years.

Then there are my parents who dated while at Tulane and married right at the end of their studies there. They both went to University of Georgia-Mom as a grad student and Dad as a professor in Mathematics. Unlike his parents, they put off starting a family until they were financially secure-about ten years.

Both Grandfather and Dad did things that would have been considered thrill seeking-Grandfather was a combat and instructor pilot during the war and did many things that he wouldn't have otherwise done like fly under the Huey Long Bridge in LA. Once after the war, he pretty much gave up flying as he had a family to look after. Same for Dad-he smoked and was into motorcycles. Smoking didn't last that long but he did love the bikes. However, as an actuarial he knew the risks of riding and he gave it up when they had us. He and Mom have been married almost fifty years now.

No relations are perfect-Mom and Dad and my grandparents have had their ups and downs. Good relationships take work-they don't just happen. I would venture to say that couples with a higher degree of education have a better chance of working out differences than those without.

#3 Alan Walker on 2007-05-21 01:57 (Reply)

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